The dating scene in new york city
The beautiful, the smart, the successful, and the young will attract more than their allotment of admirers, while the ugly, the desperate, the “too old,” and the socially unfit for whatever reason are just not going to have the same dating opportunities.
If you’re a die-hard optimist, maybe you believe that there’s someone for everyone, but there are far more somebodies for some, male or female.
The self-described “bi-coastal but not in a gay way” guy who didn’t come home one night because he’d passed out in a planter underneath the Manhattan Bridge. “He doesn’t deserve you,” they would say, my own Greek chorus.
(We continued to date for at least a month after that.) Their ages have ranged from nearly 15 years younger than me to going on 15 years older. “You’re so much better than him.” Then, inevitably: “Why are New York men such assholes? New York City, to be fair, suffers its share of problems for the female dater.
“People who live in New York are successful in their field or want to be.
We’re not someplace where so much of our time is devoted to relationships.
Extra single men was a clear trend everywhere, so there was no reason to look closer, right? As far as I can tell, New York City as a whole only has more single men than single women because of immigrant communities.According to the Census Bureau, “single” is everyone who isn’t currently married, and it completely ignores sexuality, so this is far from an exact science! My original map (and others like it) were collected at the area of a Metropolitan Statistical Area (MSA), a grouping used by the Census Bureau to put cities and their immediate, tight-knit suburbs together. The one on the left is Hell’s Kitchen – commenter Steve wrote in to say “in the past few years it has become a hub of the gay community which is why it’s all young single guys.Since these areas are basically married, it makes sense to treat them as a single statistical area, right? It’s what Chelsea once was.” As for the one on the bottom, I spend a lot of time down under side of the Manhattan bridge, and while it looks like the Lower East Side I can tell you this: all of those single men are living in Chinatown.I think the correct phrase for this situation is “and you won’t believe what happened next.” See all that pink? The tiny, fleeting pieces of blue are majority single men. The trend spreads out to Bed Stuy and East New York, and continues down through Flatbush and other predominantly African-American areas of Brooklyn.While I Here’s what I do know: if you Manhattan ladies are willing to pack up your U-Haul, there’s a light at the end of the tunnel.